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Is it Good?

These two articles graphically (perhaps too graphically) illustrate the problem faced by the anti-theist when it comes to morality.  Read this article about humanist propaganda designed just for the holidays (derived from “holy days”, by the way, if you’re wondering why non-theists feel “a little alone” during the holidays).

Then, check out this story from Sweden regarding a bestiality ring, to which the Agriculture Minister (is he a 45 year old father of two?) seems to be sympathetic.

The Humanists want to, “plant a seed of rational thought and critical thinking and questioning in people’s minds.”  Mission accomplished.  So, in the spirit of rationality, here’s a question for you:  “If there isn’t a deity who defines good and evil, then what is ‘good’?”  Consider the nauseating questions posed by the Ag Minister: “Is it, and should it be, legal to spread something on the genitalia that might smell or taste nice to a dog, in order to allow the dog to lick off whatever is spread on the genitalia?  Should it be permitted to stroke a bitch’s teats with love, or should it be classified as animal sexual abuse?”  If there is no absolute moral lawgiver, then there can be no absolute moral law…only physical laws and moral preferences.  Furthermore, if we and our dogs are only the product of time, plus matter, plus chance, then why would those actions be wrong…just a little animal on animal gratification, right?

Without God, the concept of “good” and “bad” are meaningless.  There is only “is”.  We could state preferences for one situation over another, but those would be purely subjective.  In order to be rational and consistent, I challenge the anti-theists to alter their ad campaign to say, “Just act in a manner we prefer, for preferences’ sake.”  Somehow, I don’t think they want their “seed of rational thought” to grow too much.  If it does, it may just reveal itself for what it is…a useless weed.

Certainly Uncertain

…Or, “The Age of Irresponsibility”

First of all, it must be terribly unsettling to think that this life is all there is and that we could soon be plunged into a worldwide depression for many years.  I, for one, am glad that my hope is not in government leaders, the economy, or my (dwindling) retirement account.  No matter how difficult this life may get, I am convinced that by the grace of God, I will one day find rest in the glory of His presence.  As the readers of this blog are also aware, I am convinced that believers are called to glorify God in this life and to live out the life of Christ in whatever times we find ourselves.  His daily provision of grace is my only hope to accomplish this goal as well.  (Is it just me, or has the quality of my writing deteriorated as my blogs have grown more infrequent?)  For those of you who have placed your hope in material wealth, maybe it’s time you considered something (actually, it’s a “someone”) more dependable?

The second point I would like to make is that I find it interesting that we in the West (and particularly in the USA) have long lived under the banner of materialism and it’s offspring, greed.  We have pursued, more than any other goal, economic growth and have happily and quietly applauded ourselves as we have seen our wealth increase each year.  Few among us noticed - or cared to admit - that some of this growth had no real foundation and that it could come tumbling down like a house of cards if the right (or wrong) conditions presented themselves.  Now, we find ourselves facing the very real possibility of disaster and we are looking to be relieved of the consequences of the greed to which we have long given ourselves.

Of course, I’m not surprised at the reaction.  After all, our society has made a habit of living in denial of reality.  We have developed condoms to help avoid the consequences of illicit sex.  We have birth control (including abortion) to avoid suffering with a child while enjoying extra-marital sex.  We have anti-depressants to dull the pain of living a self-centered, empty life.  We have blood pressure medications to help us avoid the consequences of years of eating an unhealthy diet and divorce to deal with the effects of poor choices and misplaced priorities. We want our credit card debt wiped away in bankruptcy and our unpaid taxes to be forgiven.  On and on it goes. (No, I’m not saying that birth control (with the exception of abortion), medicines, or even bankruptcy are always a bad thing.)  We like enjoying ourselves and we really don’t like unpleasant consequences.  Sooner or later, reality asserts itself.  As Galatians 6 states, “Do not be deceived; God is not mocked, for you reap whatever you sow.”

I’m not certainly not hoping for financial disaster, nor am I predicting that the apocalypse is upon us (although Vandy is leading the SEC East, so this is a real possibility!).  However, even if we bail ourselves out of this current mess, if we don’t change our fundamental approach to life and re-orient ourselves towards the balanced life God intended, based upon His truth and principles, we’ll find ourselves right back here again.  Eventually, we will face the consequences of our self-centered lifestyles and it won’t be pleasant.

Isn’t it about time to repent and place God in the center of our lives again, where He has always belonged?  Perhaps these troubling times will open the ears of those around us to the one true hope for salvation.

A God Like Us?

I was reading Psalm 50 and was struck by the statement God makes at the end of this selection:

17     For you hate discipline,
and you cast my words behind you.

18     You make friends with a thief when you see one,
and you keep company with adulterers.

19        “You give your mouth free rein for evil,
and your tongue frames deceit.

20     You sit and speak against your kin;
you slander your own mother’s child.

21     These things you have done and I have been silent;
you thought that I was one just like yourself.
But now I rebuke you, and lay the charge before you.

The passage describes a community made up of people who have no regard for the righteousness of God.  They live according to their own rules, satisfying their appetites, and obeying their whims.  They disregard God’s corrective action in their lives, they disregard the moral law and freely accept injustice among them.  They speak evil, even of those to whom they should be most loyal - their own family.  So, they speak up in matters they shouldn’t and keep silent when they should speak up in opposition to evil.

God states definitively that He is completely different from this society of His supposed people.  God does not keep silent in the face of evil, but opposes it.  He does not speak evil, but doesn’t back down from the truth, even when it is uncomfortable to the hearer.  As His people (I refer to believers here), we are expected to glorify Him by living His character by the transforming power of the Holy Spirit.

So, if this is true, then why do I so often hear those who speak up against evil, injustice, or sin referred to as “mean” and those who keep silent and go with the flow as “nice”?  People tend to feel guilty for trying to do the right thing or requiring others to hold to a standard, whether it is simply a business policy that is the standard or its an issue of right and wrong.

We must be careful, always realizing that our judgment isn’t perfect and that humility and grace should always be present in the believer’s life.  But, there are many issues in our society about which God would have us speak up on behalf of Right and righteousness.  If God is who He says He is, then we should be faithful to do so.  The weak and vulnerable in our society need our voices.  People need to see us living the life of Christ at work, in our families, in politics, and, yes, even in church!

Do we dare to ask God to show us just how far short we fall and then trust Him to re-mold us in His image whether it’s comfortable or not?

Some Recommended Reading…

Ravi Zacharias has edited a very helpful book entitled, “Beyond Opinion.”  I found one chapter in particular especially intriguing.  It was the chapter on, “The Role of Doubt and Persecution in Spiritual Transformation.”  You see, I’ve read a lot, studied a lot, and even done a little teaching on the topic of evil and how its existence can best be understood within the Christian worldview.  However, the author of this particular chapter (Stuart McAllister) does a great job of addressing the existential reality that we would often prefer to avoid.  In fact, I would argue that God attributes great value to the growth and the glory produced in the “desert experiences” of our lives, while those experiencing them (at certain stages, at least) are under the impression that nothing has any value whatsoever.  In order to understand the context, you need to know that earlier in the chapter, he shared his experience of having been imprisoned in a Czechoslovakian prison after being caught trying to smuggle Bibles behind the Iron Curtain.  Here are two brief paragraphs, which I hope will motivate you to read the entire chapter:

“The Trinitarian vision of God has served to sustain me in many different ways.  What do I mean?  As I journeyed into my life of faith I came to grasp (not very well) the historic teachings regarding the nature of God.  To see that God is a community of love, that he existed in self-giving relationships before the creation, and that he took on himself flesh in order to redeem us, was an awesome discovery.  The gift and life of the Holy Spirit was the final link in tying together what was for me, a vague notion.  This universe is a relational order, and I was now tuned in by virtues of God’s grace, mercy, and enabling love.  This understanding of God allowed me to dwell on God the Father, the Sovereign, the ruler, the God who humbled Egypt and led his people in the wilderness.  It also allowed me to consider Jesus as the incarnate one, the suffering servant, who although God in the flesh, restrained himself, sought out sinners, and gave his life in such an unselfish way.  The Father ruling, governing, guiding; the Son in his example, service, and sacrifice, followed by the Spirit in his comfort, keeping, power, and presence (John 14:26).  All these have been vital in my reflections.

How has this helped me practically?  It has meant that many times I could rest in the assurance of God’s ultimate and good control over life and circumstances.  Even though I had to face questions, I recognized my limitations and found comfort in the sense of God’s sovereign rule.  The example of Jesus continues to inspire and fuel a longing to be more like him: to follow his way, to respond as he responded, to treat people as he treated them, to love as he loved.  The assurance of the Spirit’s presence and help has met me in many ways, as I travel, preach, face questions, and seek to wrestle through issues.”

Net Promoter Score for Jesus (or NPSfJ)

It’s been a while since I offered a decent post.  Let’s be honest, that last post was an exhausted, weak attempt to get something on the board…certainly not my best effort and you have my apologies.

Anyway, on to tonight’s business.   A big part of my job at Effectur, Inc. where I am currently employed is to manage our Net Promoter Score program.  If you’re not familiar with the term, it’s a simple measurement designed to place a numerical measurement on the quality of a company’s relationship with its customers and it is based upon the response to one simple question, “Would you recommend the company to a friend or colleague?”  The score takes into consideration those customers who are actively promoting the company to others (think of your average Apple Macintosh user), as well as those who hate the company and rarely miss an opportunity to tell others how badly it sucks (think just about any mobile phone service provider’s customers).  Our company is doing pretty well with our NPS right now, with many more of our customers loving us than hating us, with a lot of customers in the middle, satisfied, but not exactly overwhelmingly pleased.

So, I was thinking about my witness for Christ in my various contexts each day and I was wondering how I would score if people were asked if, based upon their observance of my life, they were attracted to Jesus or persuaded to reject him.   It’s a sobering thought.  What would my co-workers say?  Is my witness consistent to each of them, or are there some who see more of Jesus, while others see more of my weaknesses emerging?  What about my wife?  My children?  Are they drawn to Jesus’ life in me?  Do they see him at all?

My prayer is a simple one: “Lord Jesus, transform me into your image more and more each day.  Fill me with your love and your grace, as well as your truth and holiness and grant me the humility to admit my failures and ask forgiveness when I hurt those around me.”

Doing Hate Right?

Dr. Henry Cloud says that great leaders learn to hate the right things well.

What is the role of ‘hate’ in your life?  When should we hate?  Care to comment?

Good Quote from Victor Davis Hanson

“Modern liberalism for our elites is really a psychological state, in which an individual crafts an all-encompassing world view in the abstract to offset a rather materialistic and self-centered desire in the concrete.” - Victor Davis Hanson

unChristian…A Book I’m Reading

Ron Smith posts on some interesting revelations from unChristian.

If only we could ban the ‘f word’! 

Simple Thought From a Simple Mind

Yesterday our pastor was preaching on the fact that the Christian life was never intended to be a call to exert enough will-power to live a righteous life.  (No, I wasn’t calling him a simple mind.  I was referring to my own…the thought is coming.)

As I thought about it, the idea of a believer struggling to “gut out” enough self-righteousness to please God makes just as much sense as a light bulb, disconnected from any source of electricity attempting to “will” itself to illuminate.  Just as the filament in a light bulb requires electricity to illuminate, so the believer requires the empowerment of the Holy Spirit to live the Christian life as it was meant to be lived.  (I’m sure I’m not the first to draw this analogy.)  Even our good deeds, accomplished outside of reliance on the Holy Spirit, are empty and misled.

Lord, teach me to rely on You and to stop trying to impress you with my own pitiful efforts at righteousness.  Once again, thank you for grace!

Help Wanted: Individuals Living Out Authentic Faith Needed

It’s late, so here’s a couple of quick thoughts.  I was recently challenged by a former church-goer as to the behavior of the vocal “Christians” and how even their fellow believers fear to do business with them because they are so untrustworthy and can actually be expected to operate in direct opposition to their stated beliefs.  I couldn’t argue…it certainly happens…often.  Is it in keeping with the person of Christ?  Absolutely not.  Is the validity of faith in him and a transforming relationship with him called into question?  Absolutely.  This is a tragedy in the church and one which, as believers, we should be challenging.  I pray for more churches that will call people to lives worthy of the high calling we’ve received in Jesus Christ.

Another sad application of the same issue can be seen in our failure to answer this dangerous school in Virginia.  Islamic students are being taught that it’s acceptable to kill ‘infidels’, yet the American church is so impotent that most Muslims in this land see nothing to attract them to Jesus and the God of the Bible.

If we fail to repent and remedy the current situation, then whether our downfall is ultimately brought about by secular humanism or Islam, the answer for our ineffectiveness in reaching our neighbor will be found in the same place: the mirror.